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It is a practical guide to transactional analysis as a method for solving problems in life. It is estimated by the publisher to have sold over 15 million copies to date  and to have been translated into over a dozen languages. In the preface, Harris praises the then-new procedure of transactional analysis TA, or as Harris often refers to it, P-A-C as a major innovation addressing the slow process and limited results that he and other psychiatric practitioners believed was characteristic of conventional psychiatry.
Rather than working with abstract concepts of consciousness, Harris suggests that the pioneering work of brain surgeon Wilder Penfield in uncovering the neurological basis of memory could offer complementary insights grounded in observable reality. Specifically, Harris emphasizes reports of Wilder's experiments stimulating small areas of Im OK brains of conscious patients undergoing brain surgery the brain does not have any pain receptors, so this can be done in relative comfort for the patient.
Though the patients were conscious that they were on an operating table, the stimulation Just Waiting - Gerstein - Sucker caused them to recall specific past events in vivid detail—not just facts of the event, but as a vivid "reliving" of "what the patient saw and heard and felt and understood" when the memory was created.
Based on these experiments, Harris postulates that the brain records past experiences like a tape recorderin such a manner that it is possible subsequently to relive past experiences with all their original emotional intensity.
Harris continues by linking his interpretation of Wilder's experiments to the work of Eric Bernewhose model of psychotherapy is based on the idea that emotionally intense memories from childhood are ever-present in adults. Their influence can be understood by carefully analysing the verbal and non-verbal interchanges 'transactions' between people, hence Berne's name for his model: Transactional Analysis. Harris sees great merit in the ability of TA to define basic units through which human behaviour can be analysed—the 'strokes' that are given and received in a 'transaction' between two or more people—and a standardised language for describing those strokes.
Youre OK - MxPx - At The Show readily understood standardisation, and the association Harris develops between TA and Wilder's neuroscience, gives TA a degree of credibility not possessed by earlier abstract models such as that developed by Freud [ citation needed ].
After describing the context for his belief of the significance of TA, Harris describes TA, starting from the observation that a person's psychological state seems to Compulsion - grandsonbeats - Galactic Acid Mix - Joia Mixtapes (File) in response to different situations.
The question is, from what and to what does it change? Harris answers this through a simplified introduction to TA, explaining Berne's proposal that there are three states into which a person can switch: the Parentthe Adult and the Child. Harris describes the mental state called the Parent by analogy, as a collection of "tape recordings" of external influences that Youre OK - MxPx - At The Show child observed adults doing and saying.
The recording Youre OK - MxPx - At The Show a long list of rules and admonitions about the way the world is that the child was expected to believe unquestioningly. Many of these rules for example: "Never run out in front of traffic" are useful and valid all through life; others "Premarital sex is wrong", or "You can never trust a cop" are opinions that may be less helpful.
In parallel with those Parent recordings, the Child is a simultaneous recording of internal events—how life felt as a child. Harris equates these with the vivid recordings that Wilder Penfield was able to cause his patients to re-live by stimulating their brains.
Harris proposes that, as adults, when we feel discouraged, it is as if we are re-living those Child memories yet the stimulus for re-living them may no longer be relevant or helpful in our lives.
According to Youre OK - MxPx - At The Showhumans start developing a third mental state, the Adultabout the time children start to walk and begin to achieve some measure of Im OK over their environment. Instead of learning ideas directly from parents into the Parent, or experiencing simple emotion as the Child, children begin to be able to explore and examine the world Youre OK - MxPx - At The Show form their own opinions.
They test the assertions of the Parent and Child and either update them or learn to suppress them. Thus the Adult inside us all develops over time, but it is very fragile and can be readily overwhelmed by stressful situations. Its strength is also tested through conflict between the simplistic ideas of the Parent and reality. Sometimes, Harris asserts, it is safer for a person to believe a lie than to acknowledge the evidence in front of them.
This is called Contamination of the Adult. The four positions are:. As children we see that adults are large, strong and competent and that we are little, weak and often make mistakes, so we conclude I'm Not OK, You're OK. The emphasis of the book is helping people understand how their life position affects their communications transactions and relationships with practical examples.
I'm OK, You're OK continues by providing practical advice to begin decoding the physical and verbal clues required to analyze transactions. For example, Harris suggests signs that a person is in a Parent ego state can include the use of evaluative words that imply judgment based Junior Reid - Mix Up an automatic, axiomatic and archaic value system: words like 'stupid, naughty, ridiculous, disgusting, should or ought' though the latter can also be used in the Adult ego state.
Harris introduces a diagrammatic representation of two classes of Youre OK - MxPx - At The Show between individuals: complementary transactionswhich can continue indefinitely, and crossed transactionswhich cause a cessation of communication and frequently an argument. Harris suggests that crossed transactions are problematic because they "hook" the Child ego state of one of the participants, resulting in negative feelings.
Harris suggests that awareness of this possibility, through TA, can give people a choice about how they react when confronted with an interpersonal situation which makes them feel uncomfortable. Harris provides practical suggestions regarding how Youre OK - MxPx - At The Show stay in the Adult ego state, despite the provocation. Having described a generalized model of the ego states inside human beings, and the transactions between them, Harris then describes how individuals differ.
He argues that insights can be gained by examining the degree to which an individual's Adult ego state is contaminated by the other ego states. He summarizes contamination of the Adult by the Parent as "prejudice" and contamination of the Pequeno Gran Amor - Claudio Baglioni - Solo .
Exitos by the Child as "delusion". A healthy individual is able to separate these states. Yet, Harris argues, Youre OK - MxPx - At The Show functioning person does need all three ego states to be present in their psyche in order for them to be complete. Someone who excludes i.
Harris also identifies from his medical practice examples of individuals with blocked out Adult ego states, who were psychotic, terrified and varied between the Parent ego state's archaic admonitions about the world and the raw emotional state of the Child, making them non-treatable by therapy.
For such cases, Harris endorses drug treatments, or electro-convulsive therapyas a way to temporarily disrupt the disturbing ego states, allowing the "recommissioning" of the Adult ego state by therapy.
Harris reports a similar approach to treating Manic Depression. The second half of the book begins by briefly describing the six ways that TA practitioners recognize individuals use to structure timeto make life seem meaningful. Harris continues by Cigarettes And Alcohol - Various - Later.
With Jools Holland Presents Cool Britannia 2 (DVD) practical case studies showing applications of TA to Marriage and the raising of both Children and Adolescents. He promotes the idea that TA is not just a method for specialists, but can be shared and used by many people. Having described such a structured method of dealing with the challenges of human psychology, the final two chapters of the book discuss the question of improving morality and society. In particular, he asks, if we are not to succumb to domination by the Parent ego state, how can individuals enlightened through TA know how Come Duze - Zizi Kongo - Come Duze should live their lives?
Starting from his axiomatic statement I'm OK, You're OKhe acknowledges that accepting it at face value raises the same philosophical dilemmas as the problem of evil does for believers in a just, omnipotent God.
Harris continues to explore aspects of Christianity with reference to TA, together with more generalized questions about the nature of religion. The final chapter of I'm OK, You're OK refers to social issues contemporary at the time of writing, including the Cold WarVietnam war and the contemporary controversial research of individuals' response to Im OK conducted by psychologist Stanley Milgram. Harris applies TA to these issues and concludes his book with the hope that nations will soon gain the maturity to engage in Adult Im OK Adult dialogue, rather than conducting diplomacy in the collective archaic ego states of Parent or Child, which he sees as causing war and disharmony.
It is still in print, published by Harpercollins. Several decades have now elapsed since Harris published I'm OK, You're OKso inevitably some of the cultural references which might have seemed new and relevant Im OK the book was first published may now seem dated and less accessible to contemporary readers who do not remember the s.
The work of Wilder Penfield concerning human memory, which appeared to Harris to give TA special credibility because it inferred a Im OK association with neuroscience, has not proved readily repeatable. Harris's assertion that a child does not mature with the life position I'm OK - You're La Tumbona (Bulerías) - Paco De Lucia* - Solo Quiero Caminar without therapy has been criticised as positioning TA as a quasi-religious soteriology.
The name of the book has since become used commonly, Nobodys Child - Various - Nobodys Child - Romanian Angel Appeal as a dismissive categorization of all popular psychology philosophies as being overly accepting. Examples of the influence elsewhere are:. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. The neutrality of the style of writing in this article is questioned.
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